How confident of a person are you really?
Think about it. I don’t know about you, but I used to be a very confident person as a teenager. The older I get though, the less confident I become.
I’m still a great person. I think I’m fun to talk to, and typically adventurous. I have lots of stories to share, and I’m a pretty awesome listener. Not to brag, but…;)
Yet, I’m still not nearly as confident as I used to be.
Is it due to declining health? Or my love of social media and seeing people put up their “perfect” lives. I know how much goes into taking the “perfect” picture. I’ve read more than enough people who admitted to spending months starving themselves for the perfect picture.
I know how much of it is fake, yet I still can’t help but look up to those people.
Which is fucked.
Why do we feel that those people, who put themselves through so much pain just to show the world a seemingly perfect photo, are the ones we need to look up to? Is it because social media tells us to?
I have noticed that as of late there are more and more people who are turning against the “perfect” picture and telling everyone to be themselves. This is amazing of course, but those being themselves are still seemingly perfect, so how can we really trust it?
I doubt we will ever find the answer, but I personally am trying to work on being a more confident person. Someone who I can admire. Someone like the incredibly confident teenager that I once was.
My tips for ways to build self confidence are simple. They are:
- Accept your changes. My metabolism isn’t at all what it once was. I remember being seventeen and eating McDonald’s nearly everyday because I worked there, yet the smallest I’ve ever been was when I was seventeen. I used to workout a lot as well, though, so that could be a huge factor in that. I also always had perfect skin, and now I occasionally have a small break out. I know you’re all probably thinking “Oh dear, dramatic pause, a small break out? Deal with it woman!” And I agree! I am trying to accept all these small changes, even though I must tell you, I have been snipping out this one strand of grey hair that keeps growing back.
- Dress up! I don’t do this nearly enough, but I always find that when I dress my best, I feel my best. I feel much better when I’m out in a nice outfit than when I run to the grocery store in sweats with my hair in a greasy top knot. I’m thinking I need to go on a bit of a shopping spree soon to pick up some nicer clothes soon, as I just recently cleaned out my clothes and donated much more than I kept! I imagine that once I have better clothes, I’ll feel more confident when I’m out of the house. All snazzy!
- Fall in love with yourself. You know how they say that you can’t love another person until you love yourself? Well I believe it. How can I truly feel confident if I don’t love myself. I think we would benefit so much more if we fell in love with our features instead of being ashamed of them. Why are we so hard on our personalities? We are lucky enough to be allowed to have them, and express them freely! Let’s make an effort to love ourselves more, and I bet our confidence will flow!
These are only three short tips, but I truly feel like they are big tips at the same time. If we each made a promise to ourselves to accept our changes, dress up and fall in love with ourselves, we would be flying off of the confidence that we were putting out there!
Maybe let’s try it?